In an effort to prepare for all eventualities (and taking advice from friends who have gone through nightmare divorces), I'm trying to drag The Dad along to a mediator to develop a parenting plan, and set up a joint bank account to pay for Baby. I have seen two lawyers in my life, one is my uncle who always took care of everything remotely financial/ legal/ etc. in the family, and other other is the immigration lawyer I hired to help get permanent residence in South Africa (after 2 study permits, 2 work permits, and a gazillion tourist visas, it was the best investment I ever made).
Most people I can find in Joburg who help develop a parenting plan are divorce lawyers. Which is sensible, except neither of us have ever been married....There seem to be a few other ways to go to get the service done, but not that many that expect you to be amicable in the process. FAMSA will allegedly help (though I've now phoned 3 times and not managed to have anyone get back to me), as will the Family advocate at the department of justice (though they apparently have nobody to pick up the phones there on Friday). Apparently, social workers can do these things....but where does one find social workers in Joburg? Presumably you can't just corner anyone with a degree in social work. Add it to the list of things that I wonder how people 'normally' do.
Most people I can find in Joburg who help develop a parenting plan are divorce lawyers. Which is sensible, except neither of us have ever been married....There seem to be a few other ways to go to get the service done, but not that many that expect you to be amicable in the process. FAMSA will allegedly help (though I've now phoned 3 times and not managed to have anyone get back to me), as will the Family advocate at the department of justice (though they apparently have nobody to pick up the phones there on Friday). Apparently, social workers can do these things....but where does one find social workers in Joburg? Presumably you can't just corner anyone with a degree in social work. Add it to the list of things that I wonder how people 'normally' do.
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